From: Jim Bailey
jimbailey2001@aol.com
Rise Up O Men of God
Stages of Life Priorities
Some things to think about
This is a work in progress. If you would like more information about these topics you may contact
Elder Jim Bailey at email jimbailey2001@aol.com
All Ages
Foundation: Jesus Christ-Repentance-Grace-Submission-Humility-Faith-Hope-Charity
Prepare to be in God’s Kingdom and don’t go alone.
High School-Proper Balance
Paul writes to Timothy ---Timothy 4: 12-16
Study, prayer, worship vs video games-use your time wisely
Home (family, chores, responsibilities) are you a giver or a taker
Church –participate, lead, support, sacrifice, love, worship, serve, smile
Dating
Sports, Boy’s and girl’s programs (Scouting)
Music-choir, band, private lessons, practice, plays and performances
After school employment
Family time: meals, prayer, study, worship
What is your order of priority
Finding the Love of Your Life, Christian Dating (starting a class on Wednesdays at 5:30 Trailblazer room all are invited) Willing to start a new class if requested.
True Love Waits is another class that I highly recommend and can be very helpful. Available upon request.
Three simple rules to escape poverty
College or Early Adult
Role in college-represent Christ at all times lead others to Christ-Work hard
Continue with attending church either near the college or back home or develop a study and worship group
Cohabitation-The share of adults who have lived with a romantic partner is now higher than the share who have ever been married.
Pew Research Center 11/6/2019 14 page report
If not college but entering the work force
What is an employer looking for:
Maturity, positive attitude, ability to fit in, hard worker, follow direction, achieve goals on time
Pre-Marriage Counseling (Prepare & Enrich) 6 month class, cost $35 per couple plus books, need 2 hours to train a new facilitator
Newly Married before children
Develop good habits early
Get involved in a local branch
Establish Zionic Home (Put Your Homes In Order for the Bridegroom Cometh)
Family: worship, prayer, study, fun, service, finances
Scriptural Roles of Husband and Wife
Husband love your wife as Christ loves the church
Wife should reverence her husband
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Submitting yourselves to one another in the fear of the Lord
Share family testimonies
Share at least one meal a day together
Continue to keep romance alive- date your spouse-surprise him or her
Develop skills in Communication and Conflict Resolution
Learn and keep learning about your spouse
Do you have a plan for children? When, how many
Married with Children
Develop agreeable child rearing policy-be a team pulling on the same side of the rope
Set boundaries and be able to enforce them
Develop balance of hard side of love and soft side of love
Maintain dating your spouse (Romance)
Continue with habits listed under newly married but now with children
Commanded to teach the children and prepare them to be in God’s kingdom
Teach the children especially by example-show them, lead them
One the best gifts you can give your children is to live a wonderful marriage
Decide who is going to raise your children
Parent or day care
Two parents working?
Is it possible to have a stay-at-home mom?
Retirement
Did you prepare properly for retirement
Debt free
What style of living do you want and what can you
afford (prepare new budget)
Remain active in all areas of your life
Spiritual-Church, priesthood duties, family
Continue to bless others especially family
Continue to take good care of your health (Diet and exercise)
Write down your testimonies and share them with your loved ones. Write them down as they happen.
Widow and Widower
Take time to grieve
Don’t stop, keep going, keep blessing others, keep serving, keep moving
Should I marry again? That answer is different for everybody but seek counseling
What are the short-term benefits and problems
What are the long-term benefits and problems
How do you want to combine material wealth
Will your children be taken care of upon your
death
Pre-marriage counseling should be helpful.
Learn to do the things your spouse did: paying bills, household chores, minor maintenance, record keeping, yard chores, etc.
Hire the things done you can no longer do or don’t want to do
Is the house too big-should I consider moving
Finances may change - prepare a new budget